Sexual Politics
Kate Millett
Is it possible to
regard the relation of the sexes in a political light at all? It
depends on how one defines politics. I do not define the political
area here as that narrow and exclusive sector known as institutional
or official politics of the Democrat or Republican – we have all
reason to be tired and suspicious of them. By politics I mean
powerstructured relationships, the entire arrangement whereby one
group of people is governed by another, one group is dominant and
the other subordinate.
It is time we
developed a more cogent and relevant psychology and philosophy of
power relationships not yet considered in out institutional
politics. It is time we gave attention to defining a theory of
politics which treats of power relationships on the less formal than
establishmentarian grounds of personal intercourse between members
of well defined and coherent groups – races, castes, classes and
sexes. It is precisely because such groups have no representation in
formal political structures that their oppression is so entire and
so continuous.
In the recent past,
we have been forced to acknowledge that the relationship between the
races in the United States is indeed a political one – and one of
the control of collectivity defined by birth, or another
collectivity also defined by birth. Groups who rule by birth are
fast disappearing in the West and white supremacists are fated to go
the way of aristocrats and other extinct upper castes. We have yet
one ancient and universal arrangement for the political exploitation
of one birth group by another – in the area of sex.
Just as the study of
racism has convinced as that there exists a truly political
relationship between races, and an oppressive situation from which
the subordinated group had no redress through formal political
structures whereby they might organize into conventional political
struggle and opposition – just so any intelligent and objective
examination of our system of sexual politics or sex role structure
will prove that the relationship between the sexes now – and
throughout history – is one of what Max Weber once termed
“Herrschaft” – or dominance and subordination – the birthright
control of one group by another-the male to rule and the female to
be ruled. Women have been placed in the position of minority status
throughout history and even after the grudging extension of certain
minimal rights of citizenship and suffrage at the beginning of this
century. It is fatuous to suppose that women – white or black – have
any greater representation now that they vote – than that they ever
did. Previous history has made it clear that the possession of the
vote for 100 years has done the black man precious little good at
all.
Why, when this
arrangement of male rule and control of our society is so obvious –
why is it never acknowledged or discussed? Partly, I suspect because
such discussion is regarded as dangerous in the extreme and because
a culture does not discuss its most basic assumptions and most
cherished bigotries. Why does no one ever remark that the military,
industry,the universities, the sciences, political office and
finance (despite absurd declarations to the contrary on the evidence
that some little old lady owns stock over which she has no control).
Why does no one ever remark that every avenue of power in our
culture including the repressive forces of the police – entirely in
male hands? Money, guns, authority itself, are male provinces. Even
God is male – and a white male at that.
The reasons for this
gigantic evasion of the very facts of our situation are many and
obvious. They are also rather amusing. Let’s look at a few of the
thousand defenses the masculine culture has built against any
infringement or even exposure of its control: is to react with
ridicule and the primitive mechanism of laughter and denial. Sex is
funny – it’s dirty – and it is something women have. Men are not
sexual beings – they are people – they are humanity. Therefore, any
rational discussion of the realities of sexual life degenerate as
quickly as men can make them into sniggering sessions, where through
cliché so ancient as to have almost ritual value, women who might be
anxious to carry on an adult dialogue are bullied back into “their
place".
At the level of
common attitude – sex and particularly that very explosive subject
of the relationship of the sexes – is a subject closed to
intelligent investigation and accessible only to persiflage and
levity.
The second evasion
our culture has evolved is via folk myth. From Dagwood to the
college professor, sex is folklore and the official version of both
is that the male is the “victim” of a widespread conspiracy. From
the folk figure of Jiggs or Punch to the very latest study of the
damage which mothers wreak upon their sons, we are assailed by the
bogey of the overbearing woman – woman as some terrible and
primitive natural evil – our twentieth-century remnant of the
primitive fear of the unknown, unknown at least to the male, and
remember, it is the male in our culture who defines reality. Man is
innocent, he is put upon, everywhere he is in danger of being
dethroned. Dagwood – the archetypal henpecked husband – is a figure
of folk fun only because the culture assumes that a man will rule
his wife or cease to be very much of a man. Like a dimwitted
plantation owner who is virtually controlled by his far-cleverer
steward or valet, Dagwood is a member of the ruling class held up
both to scorn and to sympathy-scorn for being too human or too
incompetent to rule, yet sympathetic because every other member of
the privileged group knows in his heart how burdensome it is to
maintain the illusory facade of superiority over those who are your
natural equals.
The phantasy of the
male victim is not only a myth, it is politically expedient myth,
myth either invented or disseminated to serve the political end of a
rationalization or a softening and partial denial of power. The
actual relation of the sexes in our culture from the dawn of history
has been diametrically opposite to the of official cult of the
downtrodden. Yet our culture seeks on every level of discussion to
deny logical charge of oppression which any objective view of the,
sex structure would bring up, masculine society has a fascinating
tactic of appropriating all sympathy for itself. It has lately taken
up the practice of screaming out that it is the victim of unnatural
surgery ... it has been “castrated". Even Albert Shanker. has
discovered of late that black community control, the Mayor, and the
Board of Education have performed this abomination upon his person.
To those in fear of castration word one word of comfort. The last
instance of its practice on a white man in western culture was the
late l8th century when the last castrati lost a vital section of his
anatomy in the cause of the art of music – at the hands of another
male, I must add. For castration is an ancient cruelty which males
practice on each other. In the American South it was as a way to
humiliate black victims of the Klan. In the Ancient East it was a
barbarous form of punishment for crime. In the courts of the Italian
Renaissance castration was a perverse method of providing soprano
voices for the Papal Choir. It was felt that women were too profane
to sing the holy offices so to supply the demand for the higher
musical register, eunuchs were created through putting young men to
the knife
As the practice of
physical castration has been abolished clear that the word in
current usage must be accepted in a metaphoric rather than literal
connotation, if we are to any sense of the fantastic anxiety
contemporary male egos, for on every hand, in the media and in the
culture both high and low, men today have come to see the terrible
specter of the “castrating female” all about them, their paranoiac
delusions are taken for social fact. Having in a confused way,
associated his genitals with his power, the male now bellows in
physical pain and true hysteria every time his social and political
prerogatives are threatened. If by castration is meant a loss
through being forced to share power:with oppressed groups deprived
of power- or even of human status, then there are many white men in
America who will suffer this psychic operation, but it will be the
removal of a cancer in the brain and heart not of any. pleasurable
or creative organ. To, argue that any woman who insists on full
human, status is a “castrating bitch” or guilty of the obscure evil:
of “penis envy” (only the consummate male chauvinist could have
imagined this term) is as patently silly as to argue that
dispossessed blacks want to become white men issue is not to be
Whitey, but to have a fair share of what Whitey has the whole world
of human possibility
While I am fully
aware that equal rights entail equal responsibility there are some
things Whitey has which I- am very sure I don’t want, for example, a
Green Beret, a Zippo for burning down, villages the ear of a dead of
peasant, the burden of the charred flesh a Vietnamese child. Nor do
I have an any interest in acquiring the habits of violence, warfare
(unless in the just cause of self-defense – a cause I cannot foresee
ever happening in American foreign policy), or the white man's
imperialist racism, or rape or the capitalist exploitation of
poverty and ignorance.
Because of the
smoke-screen of masculine propaganda one hears endless cant about
castration – whereas real and actual crimes men commit against women
are never mentioned. It is considered bad taste, unsportsmanlike to
refer to the fact that the are thousands of rapes or crimes against
the female personality in New-York City every year – I speak only of
those instances which are reported – probably one tenth of those
which occur. It is also generally accepted that to regard Richard
Speck and so many others like him in anything, but the light, of
exceptional and irrelevant instances of individual pathology, is
another instance of not playing that Speck merely enacted the
presupposition of the majority male supremacists of the sterner sort
– and they are -legion. That his murders echo in the surrealist
chambers of masculine phantasy and wish fulfillment is testified to
by every sleazy essay into sadism and white slave traffic on the
dirty movie belt of 42nd St, and anti-social character of hard core
pornography. The Story of O tells it like it is about
masculine phantasy better than does Romeo and Juliet. So does
the Playboy, chortling over the con-game he has played on
that Rabbit, he dreams of screwing the Bunny, or woman reduced to a
meek and docile animal toy.
For the extent and
depth of the male's hatred and hostility toward his subject colony
of women is a source of continual astonishment.' Just as be hind the
glowing' mirage of “darkeys"crooning in the twilight – is reality
the block, the whip and the manacle, the history of women is full of
colorful artifact. ...the bound feet of all of old China's women –
women deliberately deformed – that they might be the better
controlled – (you can work with those useless feet, but you cannot
run away) – the veil of Islam (or an attenuated existence as a human
soul condemned to wear a cloth sack over her head all the days of
her half-life); – the lash, the rod, domestic imprisonment through
most of the world's history -rape, concubinage, prostitution. Yes,
we have our own impressive catalogue of open tyrannies. Woman are
still sold in Saudi Arabia and elsewhere. In Switzerland, they are
even today disenfranchised. And in nearly every rod of ground on
this earth they live only via the barter system of sex in return for
for food of the latter. Like every system of oppression male
supremacy rests finally on force, physical power, rape, assault and
the threat of assault. A final resource when all else has failed the
male resorts to attack. But the fear of force is there before every
woman always as a deterrent – dismissal, divorce, violence –
personal sexual or economic.
As in any society in
a state of war, the enforcement of male rule which euphemism calls
“the battle of the sexes", is possible only through the usual lies
convenient to countries at war – The Enemy is Evil – the Enemy is
not Human. And men have always been able to believe in the innate
evil of women. Studies of primitive societies just as studies of our
own religious texts – illustrate over and over – the innumerable
instances of taboos practiced against women. A group of aborigines
agree with Judaism in the faith that a menstruating, woman is
“unclean,” taboo, untouchable. Should she have access to weapons or
other sacred and ritual articles the male, she will place a hex or
spell upon them that their “masculine” owners will not survive.
Everything that pertains to her physical make-up or function -is
despicable or subversive. Let side the village and inhabit a hut
alone and without food during her period - let her be forbidden the
temple – even those outer precincts assigned to her for a-specified
number of-days after, as the Gospels-coolly inform us she has given
birth to the very savior of the world for she is still, dirty. Dirty
and mysterious. Have you ever thought it curious that ‘nocturnal'
emissions were not regarded as either dirty or mysterious, that the
penis was (until Industrialism decided to veil it again for greater
effect) never considered as dirty – but so regal and imperious that
its shape is the one assigned to scepters, bombs, guns, and
airplanes?
In history; vast
numbers of peoples have worshipped the phallus openly. It may also
be true that ever larger numbers of peoples once worshipped the womb
or the fertility powers of the earth. It may also be true that one
of the-many causes for the commencement of that now-universal
oppression and contempt for women lay in the male's very fear of the
female powers of giving life and perhaps inspired that enormous
change in world affairs we call the patriarchal take-over. Living so
close to the earth, without having yet developed toys of his own in
warfare and the rise of princely city-states full of toiling slaves
building him empty monuments, and unaware of his own vital role in
conception the male may well have past glances of envy on the woman
and what was – in those conditions – her miraculous capacity to
bring another human life out of her very belly – and seen in it a
connection with the phases of the moon, and the seasons of the
earth's vegetation – and stood both in awe and terror – and finally
in hatred – and decided to cast this function down from what he
rather naturally I assumed was its collusion with the supernatural,
the terrible, the uncontrollable forces of nature – and denigrate it
to the level of the the bestial, the pernicious and the obscene. And
thus the filthy totem was,appropriated by the male and taboo
assigned in a thousand ways to operate against the female.
Having vitiated all
effects of the female power the male set about aggrandizing his own.
Having finally appropriated all access to the supernatural for
himself he established an alliance with the new male god (both his
brother his father, depending on auspicious or inauspicious
circumstance), he then proceeded to announce his kinship with the
divine through a long and impressive list of patriarchs and
prophets, high priests and emperors. Now that he had gone into
partnership with God, the male set himself up as God to the female.
Milton puts it this way: “He for God only, she. for God in him".
In some cultures
females were allowed to participate on an inferior level as figures
of identification for human females – useful in encouraging them to
an enforced cooperation in their own control. So they can see
themselves as honored through the rapes of Jove on Europa and Leda,
favored in divine seduction scenarios as an endless series of wood
nymphs, possibly debased versions of other tribal goddesses at loose
ends now their matriarchal reign had ended – or incarnate in that
first troublesome woman, Juno – the insubordinate wife.
But in sterner
patriarchal societies such as the Judaic and Christian, there was
never any kidding around about goddesses. Christianity did not
elevate the Virgin to goddess status until the 12th Century and the
Protestants dethroned her a mere 4 hundred years later. The device
of making her both virgin and mother not only excites admiration for
its ingenuity but astonishment as its perfection of effect – here is
divine or nearly divine woman completely relieved of that insidious
sexuality by which woman herself has always been defined.
Mere mortal women in
the Christian ages were continuously assured of their inherent evil
and inferiority by a whole procession of fanatic mile supremacists –
from Paul who found even the exhibition of their hair in church a
powerful provocation and an indelicate enticement to hellish
practices more apparent in his mind than in others – (such it is to
represent the sexuality of the whole race in only one half of it) –
to Jerome, Augustine, Aquinas and a whole parade of ascetics,
hermits, and other non-participating types who have projected their
own teeming sexuality onto the female. For so strong is the hold of
the Christian assumption through Eve and other notable exempla that
the “evil” of sex was introduced via the female alone – that today
even Women think of Women when they think of sex, sexiness, sex
objects, sexuality and sex symbols – a state of rather surprising
paradox in a society which rigidly enforces heterosexuality for
women.
Judaism is even more
punctilious than Christianity in the matter of male supremacy. First
thing in the morning every male Jew is enjoined to thank God for
creating him a male and therefore a superior order of being. I have
never been informed as to what Jewish women are instructed to say on
such occasions of coming to consciousness – perhaps it is some
little bit of advice to themselves not to fall into the
much-satirized posture of the overbearing Jewish mother.
Of course it is not
surprising that religion as we know it takes the enforcement of male
supremacy by divine fiat as part of its function in a patriarchy –
so too does literature, all traditional and contemporary notions of
government, those platitudes which currently pass for social science
– and even – despite the influence of the Enlightenment – science
itself cooperates in a number of transparently expedient
rationalizations in maintaining the traditional sexual politics on
grounds so specious as to have a certain comic charm.
A further way in
which contemporary masculine culture refuses to face the issue of
sexual politics is through the reduction of the two sexual
collectivities of male and female into an endless variety of purely
individual situations, whereby all cases are unique – each a
delicate matter of adjustment of one diverse character to another –
all of them merely the very private matter of one-to-one
relationships. That this is so largely our favorite method of
portraying sexual relationships today – since Freud and the
development of that very private science of psychoanalysis – is
probably due in good part to the convenience it offers in shielding
us from the unpleasant reality of sexual relations should we begin
to view them on general or class/caste terms as we have learned to
see race. For we know very well now that race is not a matter
between one employer and his “boy” or one family and its “maid", but
it is to be perceived in the far more pertinent light of one race's
control over the other
The Individual Case
translates our older myth of the dangerous Female into a newer but
by now rather shop-worn cliché of the bitch stereotype – the most
stock figure of the contemporary media. It is interesting to note
how this bitch leads one to fancy - without ever coming right out
and saying it – that all women are bitches. It is puzzling too how,
as woman – with woman's minority status and therefore a creature
completely out of the male power structure – she is arbitrarily and
unjustly blamed for nearly every fault in American life today – and
turned into a veritable symbol of the Hateful Establishment. As
beauty queen, the male establishment is willing to allow woman a
place as mascot or cheerleader – but it is a long way from admitting
her to any personal stake in the establishment's show. As a
girlfriend or a wife, she may participate vicariously for a time, –
but she is easy to replace and the trade-in on old models of wife
and mistress is pretty brisk. She may sleep with so many thousands a
year or such and such an office, but she is dreaming if she ever
fancies such glory is her own.
For the purpose of
male propaganda, one of the most felicitous effects of the
Individual Case myth is that it immediately translates any
resistance to the present political situation in sex relations into
a damning conviction of the sin of neurosis. As Psychology has
replaced religion as the conformist in social behavior, it has
branded any activity at odds with the force quo (which, by the way,
it has taken to be “normality”) as deranged, pitiable or dangerous
behavior. By this criteria, current “normality” in the United States
is racism, police brutality and ruthless economic exploitation.
This is what happens,
if, like the Shrinks, you take 19th Century social life as both the
State of Nature and the State of a Healthy Society. Any woman who
fails to conform to the sterile stereotype of wife and motherhood as
all and only, or who fails to bow in elaborate deference to male
authority and opinion on any and all questions – -is clearly off her
nut. Men have said it.
One other device to
maintain the current and traditional sexual politics is to claim
that the whole thing has already been settled a long time ago “we
gave you the vote” as the male authoritarian puts it with such
stunning arrogance —we went to the polls and elected you into the
human race because one day you mentioned the oversight of your
exclusion and, obliging fellow that we are, we immediately rectifies
this very trivial detail .
The foregoing is both
a distortion of history and a denial of reality. Women fought hard
and almost without hope, driven to massive and forceful protest
which has served as a model both for the labor movement and the
black movement. They struggled on against overwhelming odds of power
and repression for over one hundred and fifty years to get this
worthless rag known as the ballot. We got it last of all, – black
and white – women are the last citizens of the United States' – and
we had to work hardest of all to get it.
And now we have it we
realize how badly we were cheated – we had fought so long, worked so
hard, pushed back despair so many times that we were exhausted – we
just said then give us that and we will do the rest ourselves. But
-we didn't realize, as perhaps blacks never realized until the Civil
Rights Movement, that the ballot is no real admission to civil life
in America; it means nothing at all if you are not represented in a
representative democracy. And we are not represented now any more
than black people... both groups have only one senator one Tom
apiece. The United States has fewer women in public office than
hardly any nation in the world – we are more effectively ostracized
from political life – in this country than any other constituency in
America – and we are 53% of its population. Political nominees
announced their intention of helping asthmatic children and the
mentally retarded of every age, if elected – but not a word about
women half the population- but not a word – the largest minority
status group in history. But not one word.
It is time the
official fallacy of the West and of the United States particularly -
that the sexes are now equal socially and politically - be exploded
for the hoax it really is. For at present any gainsaying of this
piety is countered with the threat that “women have got too much
power I they're running the world”, and other tidbits of frivolity
which the speaker, strange as it may seem, might often enough
believe. For the more petty male ego(like that of the cracker or the
Union man..in the North who voted for Wallace) – in his paranoia is
likely to believe that because one woman or one black man in
millions can make nearly or even a bit more than he does – the whole
bunch are taking over that sordid little corner of the world he
regarded as his birthright because the was white and male – and on
which he had staked his very identity-just because it prevented him
from seeing himself as exploited by the very caste he had imagined
he was part of and with whom, despite all evidence to the contrary,
he fancied he shared the gifts of the earth and the American dream –
. Nightmare that it is.
The actual facts of
the situation of woman in America today are sufficient evidence
that, white or black, women are at the bottom unless they sleep with
the top. On their own they are Nobody and taught every day they are
Nobody and taught so well they have come to internalize that
destructive notion and even believe it. The Department of Labor
statistics can't hide the fact that this is a man's world – a white
man's world: the average year-round income of the white male is
$6,704, of a black male $4,277, of a white I female $3,991, and of
the black woman $2,816. As students you live in a Utopia – enjoy it,
for it is the only moment in your lives when you will be treated
nearly as equals. When you get married or get a job you will be made
to see where power is, but then it will be too late. That is why you
should organize now: look at your curriculum and look at your
housing rules, – that's a start at realizing how-you are treated
unfairly.
But the oppression of
women is not only economic; that's just a part of it. The oppression
of women is Total and therefore it exists in the mind, it is
psychological oppression. Let's have a look at how it works, for it
works like a charm. From earliest childhood every female child is
carefully taught that she is to be a life-long incompetent at every
sphere of significant human activity therefore she must convert
herself into a sex object – a Thing. She must be pretty and assessed
by the world: weighed, judged and measured by her looks alone. If
she's pretty, she can marry; then she can concentrate rate her
energies on pregnancy and diapers. That's life – that's female life.
That's what it is to reduce and limit the expectations and
potentialities of one half of the human race to the level animal
behavior.
It is time we
realized that the whole structure of male and female personality is
arbitrarily imposed by social conditioning a social conditioning
which has taken all the possible traits of human personality – which
Margaret Mead once, by way of analogy, compared to the many colors
of the rainbow's spectrum – and arbitrarily assigned traits into two
categories; thus aggression is masculine, passivity-feminine
violence- masculine, tenderness feminine, intelligence masculine and
emotion feminine, etc., etc... arbitrarily departmentalizing human
qualities into two neat little piles which are drilled into children
by toys, games, the social propaganda of television and the board of
education's deranged whim as to what is proper male – female
Role-Building. What we must now set about doing is to reexamine this
whole foolish and segregated house of cards, and pick from it what
we can use: Dante, Shakespeare, Lady Murasaki and Mozart, Einstein
and the care for life which we have bred into women – and accept
these as human traits. Then we must get busy to eliminate what are
not properly humane or even human ideas – the warrior, the killer,
the hero as homicide, the passive, dumb cow victim.
We must now begin to
realize and to retrain ourselves to see that both intelligence and a
reverence for life are HUMAN qualities. It is high time we began to
be reasonable about the relationship of sexuality to personality and
admit the facts -the present assignment of temperamental traits to
sex is moronic, limiting and hazardous. Virility - the murderer's
complex- or self definition in terms of how many or how often or how
efficiently he can oppress his fellow – - This has got to go. There
is a whole generation coming of age in America who have already
thoroughly sickened of the military male ideal, who know they were
born men and don't have to prove it by killing someone or wearing
crew cuts. There is also a vast number of women who are beginning to
wake out of the long sleep known as cooperating in one's own
oppression and self-denigration, and they are banding together, in
nationwide chapters of the National Organization for Women – in the
myriad groups of Radical Women springing up in cities all over the
country and the world, in the women's liberation groups of SDS and
in other groups or, on campus, and they are joining together to make
the beginnings of a new and massive women's movement in America and
in the world – to establish true equality between the sexes, to
break the old machine of sexual politics and replace it with a more
human and civilized world for both sexes, and to end the present
system's oppression of men as well as women.
There are other
forces at work to change the ;whole face of American society: the
black movement to end racism, the student movement with its numbers
and powers for spreading the idea of a new society founded on
democratic principles, free of the war reflex. free of the economic
and racial exploitation reflex. Black people, students and women –
that's alot of people with our combined numbers it is probably 70%
of the population or more. It is more than enough to change the
course and character of our society – surely enough to cause a
radical social revolution. And maybe it will also be the first
Revolution to avoid the pitfall of bloodshed, a mere change of
dictators and the inevitable counter-revolution which follows upon
such betrayal and loss of purpose.
We are numbers
sufficient to alter the course of human history -by changing
fundamental values by affecting an entire change of consciousness.
We cannot have such a change of consciousness unless we rebuild
values – -we cannot rebuild values unless we ‘restructure
personality.' But we cannot do this or solve racial and economic
crimes unless we end the oppression of all people – unless we end
the idea of violence, of dominance, of power, unless we end the idea
of oppression itself – unless we realize-that a revolution in sexual
policy is not only part of but basic to any real change in the
quality life. Social and cultural revolution in America and the
world depend on a change of consciousness of which a new
relationship between the sexes and a new definition of humanity and
human personality are an integral part.
As we awake and begin
to take action, there will be enough of us and we will have both a
purpose and a goal – the first truly human condition, the first
really human society. Let us begin the revolution and let us begin
it with love: All of us, black, white, and gold, male and, female,
have it, within our power to create a world we could bear out of the
desert we inhabit for we hold our very fate in our hands.
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